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Yes, I do feel a ‘connection’ with lesbians because we are under the LGBTQIAP+ umbrella. I find that sense of specialness fades as soon as I actually get to know them. After that, a true sense of connection depends upon what they are like as a person, same as if I was meeting a straight person.
I find the lesbian butch/fem dynamics fascinating and confusing, but probably no more than you find the gay male butch/fem dynamics. I don’t find the gay male dynamics confusing but I do find them fascinating.
I have felt that some lesbians seem unfriendly just because I’m male. They may have reason to stereotype me that way. Then again, I have felt excluded from some other cliques because I was too: young / old / tall / gay / white / educated / uneducated / fit / unathletic / wealthy / poor / fem / butch / and I’m sure a few more qualities. People stereotype. Some with cause, some without. If I became more acquainted with members of a clique they usually decide I’m OK.
Sometimes when I dislike (or like) a person whom I know to be lesbian, I will stereotype that it is because of some inner characteristic of lesbianism. But that is just stereotyping and observational bias. It is actually due to some inner characteristic of them as a person.
I have had lesbians as friends, acquaintances, and co-workers. Some I have really liked, some I have really disliked. Most fall somewhere in between, just like most of the straight people I have had as friends, acquaintances, and co-workers.
Deany and Susan, a lesbian couple, have been two of my closest friends for fifteen-plus years and have helped me through many things in my life. All they ask of me is that I occasionally help paint a wall.